In bitter divorces, the struggle for timesharing/custody can often turn ugly. When arming yourself for these potentially contentious battles in divorce, there are a number of things you can do to improve your chances of success on the battlefield.
First of all, remain focused on the “best interests” goal. Remember that the judge’s ultimate decision will be based on what is in the best interest for creating a stable environment for the children, not the parents.
Recognize that your interactions with your children will be carefully reviewed and start immediately compiling documentation and witness testimony that underscores your parenting abilities.
- Begin recording the daily activities you share with your children and document trips and outings with photos.
- Be involved in your children’s educational and moral upbringing by attending school functions, communicating with their teachers, encouraging family and church activities, etc.
- Have witnesses who have known you for an extended period of time speak to how well you parent.
You may also wish to begin compiling evidence of your spouse’s less-than-stellar performance as a parent. This could include:
- Any police records, proof of drug use, domestic abuse or mental illness.
- Activities they may have engaged in that endangered your children.
- A work schedule that precludes them from spending adequate time with your children.
- Any failure to pay temporary support or problems with timesharing (visitation) times.
- Actions by your spouse that show that your spouse places his or her desires and needs before the needs of the children’s.
While your spouse has become your adversary in terms of the timesharing/custody fight, you should try to get along with him or her and maintain open lines of communication. Your efforts will be advantageous to your children’s well-being, and also may end up helping you in your case.
At the end of the day, one of the most critical tools to carry in your arsenal is an experienced family law attorney. Find a lawyer with a history of winning custody cases and one whom you feel comfortable with. Timesharing/custody battles in divorce can be long and arduous - it is critical to do what you can to minimize the chance of defeat.
Board Certified Marital and Family Law Attorney Charles D. Jamieson understands that divorce is an extremely sensitive and important issue. Thanks to extensive experience and a focus on open communication, Attorney Jamieson adeptly addresses the complex issues surrounding custody disputes while delivering excellent personal service. If you are involved in a timesharing/custody/visitation issues, then immediately contact The Law Firm of Charles D. Jamieson, P.A. to schedule a consultation online or call 561-478-0312.